September, 2018 | Nelumbo Consultancy

Loneliness – Not So Bad

Loneliness is a feeling you probably won’t want to experience as it often comes with feelings of sadness, emptiness and even, depression. However, loneliness is not always bad especially if you are someone who is comfortable with their own company. Having some alone time creates room for you to express yourself in ways in which you might not have been if people were present.

Being alone or lonely doesn’t necessarily mean you’re unloved, or the world has abandoned you; it just says that you’re sometimes happy being by yourself. A lot of persons don’t enjoy their company so they avoid alone time although that time creates a valuable opportunity for learning, self-introspection and loads of creativity.

Below are some reasons why being lonely isn’t such a bad idea. In other words, let’s take a look at the benefits of being lonely:

1. You get to enjoy your company.

Stepping away from everybody is liberating. You get to do what you want without worrying about hurting someone’s feelings. You can check out new areas, take yourself out on a date, listen to your favorite songs or read a book without any form of interruption.

2. It teaches you to be comfortable in your skin

A lot of persons who are alone or more appropriately, lonely are not happy with their situation and that’s because they don’t have an understanding of what it is to be alone. When you are alone, you get to have a better understanding of yourself and your emotions due largely to the opportunity for introspection. Consequently, you grow more comfortable in your skin and eventually, are more confident.

3. It prevents us from keeping the wrong company;

Loneliness is just a feeling and it’s better to live alone than having the wrong people around you. When you are alone, you avoid persons who would want to force you into confrontations.

4. Being alone gives you the opportunity to listen to your inner voice

When you’re alone, you have a chance to contemplate and meditate. This gives you an edge when you can listen to your inner voice. You become more creative than when you are always with people. Sometimes we get so busy that we don’t always have the time to sit and think. But being alone reminds us to do just that, which sometimes aids us in coming to some important realizations.

5. You get the opportunity to find more facts about yourself

Sometimes we have everything going for us, but we still feel a bit lonely. This might have nothing to do with other people and everything to do with ourselves. Loneliness helps us find facts about ourselves, where we lack in fulfillment, what we’ve achieved, what our setbacks are, etc. Being lonely might just be a hint that the time for a change has come.

At Nelumbo Consultancy We believe that any challenge can be met effectively through the use of psychological therapies. Contact us today and our team of psychologists will help you with your problem.

Worry and How You Can Overcome It

Worry is a feeling of unease or extreme concern about a problem or solution where your mind goes on an overdrive, focusing on what may happen regardless of how likely it may be to happen. Worry is caused by a nagging, persistent thought which circles in our mind. The act of worry is a habitual and obsessive behavior and one which should be given up. It exacerbates aches and pains, increases your vulnerability to infections and stress, causes distractions, interferes with your sleep and stops you from performing essential tasks. It serves no purpose other than being a bad habit.

How to stop worrying?

Using the appropriate control, you can overcome the act of worrying. Never give it a chance to conquer you, instead of giving in to worrisome thoughts, intervene before it has access to controlling your mind and becomes a habit. Worrisome thoughts which crosses your mind serves as a warning sign. The signs may be alerting you of anxiety. In this case, the proper course of action is to examine the worrisome thoughts and opt a solution that prevents you from worry.

What is the solution?

  1. Medicine

Most persons feel worried about their day to day lives, when worry becomes perennial it becomes an anxiety disorder. If you are diagnosed with one, you’ll likely need treatment. Treatment typically consists of psychotherapy and medication.

While drugs don’t cure anxiety, they can help you manage your symptoms so you can function well and feel better in your day-to-day life. Many types of medications are available. Because each person is different, you and your doctor may have to try several remedies to find the right one for you.

  1. Go for a trip

When on a trip, you are free from stress and are able to see things in a new light. You feel very relaxed by seeing new surroundings and gain an understanding of how other parts of the world function.

  1. Keep yourself busy

To solve the problem of getting worried, forget about your problems and find something you love doing to entertain yourself, keep your mind active, give yourself a challenge, be productive and communicate with people around you. Pursue your hobby, continue reading books, write articles and poems. You can as well go for a vacation with your family.

  1. Compare your present worry with another worry which you have experienced earlier

Comparing a current worry to another experienced earlier makes you examine your concerns. Even if the past is much better than the present worry or the present better than the past, it helps in controlling your worries. When I decided to quit my last job to pursue my desire of becoming a full-time writer, I worried a lot. I worried about things like “what if I can’t foot my bills?” and “what if I fail?”. I always freaked out, but as things turned out,  the panacea to my worrisome thoughts was not as difficult as I expected. Many people worry about all sorts of things;  money, work, health, relationships and so on. The truth is some concerns are worth it, whereas others are not necessary.

Contact us at Nelumbo Consultancy today. We look forward to hearing from you. Take action today and you will be glad you did.

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