How to Get Over a Breakup | Nelumbo Consultancy

How to Get Over a Breakup

Author : Date : 08/06/2018

There’s no sugar-coating it, breakups are tough and the aftermath of one can be devastating. A lot of persons go into depression, lose their self-esteem, suffer insomnia, and even have reduced immune function. While in the throes of a breakup, even the most motivated persons can have difficulties in deciding on how to proceed with their lives regardless of whether they got dumped or they did the dumping.

Being the dumper is no fun as you have to deal with the conflict, anxiety, awkwardness and conflicting feelings which are sure to follow. On the other hand, being the person getting dumped is a whole new level of suck, and a lot of us have had the “pleasure” of suffering the ultimate heartbreak- being dumped out of the blue. Binge gaming or binge eating will only get you so far, but if you want to grow and move on after the heartbreak, then you need to have a plan in place.

We have taken out time to examine some quick tips which can help you get over a breakup, and they are outlined below:


Regardless of whether you and your ex decided to stay friendly, it is important you guys break away completely right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around mutual friends, no Facebook, no Whatsapp, no phone calls, no emails and no Snapchat. This doesn’t mean you get to stop talking forever, and it only means cutting off communication for as long as is required to get over your ex.


That moment when you realize that a relationship you had invested so much time and effort into is over usually feels like death and the key to overcoming this feeling is embracing it. If you feel the need to cry, please do so. Remember the good old times and however much you decide to mourn the relationship, do – think of it as an exorcism.


One of the most significant problems we have to deal with after a breakup is the overthinking and the only way to combat this is by being brutally honest with yourself. This brutal honesty will help you process the breakup faster and discover why it occurred. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you are compatible or will have a great future together. Chances are the breakup was for the best, and if it didn’t happen now, it would have happened down the line.


After a breakup, thrust yourself out there and make an effort to spend time with the people you care about. This is especially important as it would help to bring a sense of normalcy back to your life and remind you of all the persons who have got your back.

Go out there to new places, meet new people and have a good time. Have fun, be happy and be free. Even though you might have a bad day now and again, rise from it and continue making an effort to make things better.


This is especially important after a bad breakup where it may seem you will never love again or trust again. However, this sense of loss is often a door to great possibilities where you can do all the things you couldn’t do when you were previously with your partner.

There is a lot more you can do to help you move on from a breakup. However, if you need more personal coaching on getting over a breakup, contact any of the resource personnel’s at Nelumbo Consultancy, and we would be glad to help.


Disclaimer about blog- All contents within the Nelumbo Consultancy (NC) website is provided for general information only and should not be treated as a substitute for the advice of a doctor, counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist etc. You should always consult if you are concerned about your mental health. NC is not responsible or a liable for any diagnosis made by a user based on the content within the NC website.

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